Are date nights few and far between in your marriage? Take this date night challenge! It’s time to take the pressure off planning the perfect date night. Let’s get real. With our busy lives and families, going on a date with your husband can sometimes seem more like a chore than a good time. You’ve got to plan the date and find someone to watch the kids. By the time you’re out the door, you’re already exhausted and the night hasn’t even started yet! Been there? Check out these four tips for a stress free date night with your husband. Bring date night back this weekend!
Take the pressure off!
Rethink your idea of a “date.” If your family is as busy as mine is, it’s certainly a challenge to carve out time for date night. Get outside of that box! Dates don’t have to be expensive, time consuming, or fancy. In fact, if you take the challenge, brainstorming dates that are frugal and fun can be a lot of fun! For us, it’s as simple as dropping our little guy off at grandmas, grabbing dinner and treats from our favorite local ice cream parlor, and having a cozy movie night at home.
Get a quality sitter.
It’s never easy to relax on date night when you’re worried about the little ones at home. Take time to build a relationship with a babysitter you trust. For me, my parents and in-laws are first on my list. (Plus, they come at a fantastic price. Free!) Family isn’t always available though, so it’s a great idea to find a backup so your date night remains stress free. Looking for a quality sitter? Join Care.com FREE today! Find babysitters, nannies, housekeepers, dog walkers and more.
Get some conversation ideas here!
For most of us, it’s natural to end up talking about the kids on date night. But have you ever stopped to think why? Don’t get me wrong, I love my little dude. There’s absolutely a place to discuss your children with your spouse. But if that’s ALL we talk about? I like to think that healthy marriages are like the huge old oak trees around my town. They grow strong and tall because they soak up the water during those lovely summer rains, year after year. It’s time to water your marriage. With what? Quality conversation! Get to the heart of what your spouse is all about.
I love these resources for some meaningful conversation starters for date night. Be sure to check these out for some let’s-talk-about-anything-but-the-kids inspiration!
- Patrick and Ruth from For The Family share their top 20 date night convo ideas here. They’ve got lots of additional marriage resources too!
- On Nothing if Not Intentional, Nate and Rachael share a few inspiring date night questions for married couples. Plus, they’ve got an awesome free printable.
One of my favorites is “What was your favorite vacation as a kid?” What a fun way to find out something new about each other!
Make it a habit!
Ok, so this is something I can work on in my marriage. To often I put quality time on the back burner! With little ones I know it is so incredibly difficult to schedule regular date nights. But, will you take this challenge with me? My goal is to have one on one quality time with my husband at least once a month. That’s doable for me, and I’m looking forward to getting to know my husband better!