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Running out of patience today? You need some tried-and-true mom advice. Don't go another day being an angry mom. Grab these printable cards for your fridge, and be proactive about being a more patient mom!

Inside: You know you need to discipline your kids. But does it seriously have to be so frustrating? Let me show you ten tips to help you be a patient mom even in the toughest parenting discipline situations. 

Have you ever met a perfect mom?

Nope. Me neither.

All moms get frustrated. It’s part of the bargain. You see, we’re raising up these little seeds. We water, prune, and tend, but they’ve got a long, long way to go before we see the fruit. Woo boy, a long way.

In fact, sometimes, we are a bit fruitless ourselves, right? If you’re like me you might find your self in a hamster wheel cycle of impatience with your children. You can feel it as soon as you wake up in the morning. One spilled drink sets you off. One squeal from the playroom puts you on edge. You’re about to lose it, mama.

Here’s one thing to remember… This is not just about you, and it’s not just about disciplining your child. It’s about changing your heart to reflect God’s, and it’s about being a good steward of your children. Does being a patient mom mean that you let your child get away with wrong behavior? Of course not! It does, however, mean letting the Holy Spirit do the leading instead of being led by those hot-tempered emotions bubbling up beneath the surface. You can discipline your child with patience!

So, before you lose it, (Or even if your patience has long since flown the coop!) I dare you to try this tried-and-true mom advice. Use these ten simple steps to regain your self-control, and discipline with grace, patience, and wisdom.

Be sure to get these printable cards to place on your fridge or mirror! As you discipline your child, you’ll be ready the next time your patience wears thin.

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Tip #1: Breathe Deeply

About to lose your cool? Take a deep breath. Hold it for a few seconds. Now let it go. Try looking out the window for even a few seconds as you breathe and adjust your mindset before you decide how to discipline your child.

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Tip #2: Pray for Wisdom

If you’re about to lose your patience, it’s time to reset your focus! Take 30 seconds to pray for wisdom and courage to be the mom God knows you can be. Try praying this Scripture! Pray it out loud if you dare, it might even catch your child’s attention enough to settle him down as well.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13: 4- 7

Tip #3: Be the Benevolent Boss

Is your lack of authority causing your frustration? Remember mama, you’re the boss. You have authority in your home because God gave it to you! Steward it well. Remember this as you discipline your kids:

  • Good bosses don’t yell. They instruct.
  • Good bosses don’t berate. They encourage.
  • Good bosses don’t give up. They recognize their own authority.
  • Good bosses don’t overreact. They use restraint.

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Tip #4: Examine Your Expectations

Let’s be honest. Sometimes we lose our patience because of something that’s going on inside of us. Sometimes it really has nothing to do with how the kids are behaving today.

Do a quick checkup. Are your expectations out of line? Or is this a real issue of respect and obedience?

  • Is what I’m asking age-appropriate?
  • Are there legitimate obstacles preventing my child from obeying, or is it a matter of the will?
  • Is this a one-time misbehavior, or a pattern? One-time? Choose faithful instruction and grace. Pattern? Choose faithful instruction and discipline.

Tip #5: Stick to the Boundaries

Thinking about giving in and letting it slide today? When your patience wears thin it’s often easier to pretend you don’t notice misbehavior or disrespectful attitudes from your children. But discipline for children is all about consistency! Stay strong and restate your boundaries! You’ll have to work twice as hard to break bad habits later if you don’t address them now.

  • Restate the boundaries. “Remember, in our house we…”
  • Make it a positive. “Show me your quiet voice.” Instead of, “Stop yelling.”
  • Nip arguments in the bud. “Asked and answered.”

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Tip #6: State the Consequences

Consistent consequences are the remedy to impatience! Be firm. Be fair. Be consistent. Take out the emotion and the stress of worrying about what your child will choose to do. As moms, we wear out our patience when we try to control our children’s choices. That’s not our job! As you discipline your child, it’s simply up to you to give appropriate consequences (both good and bad!) for the choices your kids make.

  • Consider a natural consequence. Didn’t pick up the toys after being asked three times? Mom keeps them the rest of the day.
  • Give your child the power. “You can choose to pick up the toys or you can choose timeout. Which would you rather do?”
  • Use a low, slow voice. Use fewer words and resist the urge to ramble and nag. Nagging will only wear down your patience even more! Mean what you say the first time and let the consequences do the rest of the talking.

Tip #7: Use “I Statements”

When you’re impatient it becomes so, so easy to let biting, bitter words slip out. A little sarcastic comment here, a verbal jab there… But there’s no room for sarcasm in discipline and parenting. Instead, use “I statements” to get your point across in a positive, respectful way. Say “I need,” not “You are.”

  • I expect to hear respectful words in this house.
  • I feel disappointed when you choose to make a mess after I asked you to clean up.
  • I can’t say yes when you whine.
  • I get frustrated when I see you’re not listening.
  • I understand… but remember what our rule is.

Tip #8: Think Long-Term

When you’re in the middle of a tough discipline situation, hanging on to that last thread of patience, sometimes the best thing to do is to take a break. Will this matter in a week? A month? A year? Think about the long-term truths you want yourself and your child to learn from this situation. How do you want your child to react when his patience wears thin in years to come?

Proverbs 16: 32 says, “Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.” It takes incredible strength of character to show patience when all you want to do is vent and yell. Think long-term and be an example for your child of what patience really looks like in everyday life.

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Tip #9: Ask Forgiveness

So maybe you’ve already lost it. Maybe you let the situation get the best of you and you lost control of your temper and let those pesky emotions take over. Don’t worry! I guarantee it happens to every mama, even the great ones. It’s what you do afterward that counts. Ask yourself…

  • Do I need to ask forgiveness from the Lord? If so, he’s ready and willing to pick you back up again!
  • Do I need to ask forgiveness from my child? Try this, “I’m sorry I reacted that way. That was wrong. Will you forgive me? We are on the same team, let’s both do better next time, OK?”

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1: 9

Tip #10: Say, “I love you too much to let you act that way.”

Remember, whether you’re about to lose your patience, or whether you’ve already lost it…Keep your big picture in mind. Remember that loving, consistent discipline is life-giving for your children. Remember, you love your kids. Remember, you’ve got big dreams for them. Remember, you’re in it together for the long haul.

Hebrews 12: 11 says, “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”

Isn’t that great news?

Remember those seeds we talked about earlier? It takes patience to wait and watch them grow. Some days more patience than we think we have inside us! But God promises a righteous and peaceful harvest as we discipline children with grace and truth!

So, mama. I dare you…

First, print out those Patience Cards. Hole punch them and stick them on your fridge or your bathroom mirror. Next time you feel your patience about to run out, take a quick glance through them. You’ve got this! You don’t have to let impatience take control as you parent. Remember, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15: 1

Next, don’t keep this mom advice to yourself! Would you share this with a mama friend who needs it? (And, ahem… Is there any mom who doesn’t struggle with discipline for kids from time to time??) Share on Pinterest, Facebook, or Twitter! Let’s do it together, mama!


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